Dec 17, 2008

You Lost Him at Hello by Jess McCann

Jess McCann's You Lost Him at Hello is part of a TLC Book Tour and I want to thank TLC and Jess McCann for sending along the book for my review.

Despite being married myself, this book has some great advice about how to embrace yourself and become confident--know your product and learn how to sell it. In the dating world, confidence is everything, even if you don't feel confident all the time. McCann lays the groundwork for each single woman in this book, seeking to provide practical applications of sales techniques in the dating world.

The best part of this book is the personal stories of her own dating snafus and those of her friends. These tidbits bring the practical advice to the forefront, detailing how the techniques can be applied to improve each woman's dating life. While a lot of self-help books talk about making drastic changes to your routines and lifestyles in many instances, McCann offers some small steps you can take to get results. Check out Adventures of Wanderlust's post to see how small changes worked for her and her girlfriends.

Here are some main things to keep in mind, which may seem like common sense:

1. Know yourself and love yourself
2. Remain confident and share your opinions
3. Make eye contact and express interest in discussed topics, even those outside your comfort zone
4. Don't be a telemarketer of dating; you cannot convince a man to be interested if he isn't
5. Make yourself available and change up your routine to meet guys in a variety of places to prime the pump--keeping your options open until commitment is broached

I wanted to share this passage with you from McCann's book, page 37:

My friend Kayla is the worst dater. . . . Kayla's biggest problem is that she doesn't really know who she is. She hasn't yet figured out the kind of person that makes her Kayla. If you asked her if she was a Democrat or Republican, she would say that she's not into politics. . . . She thought she was being easygoing by staying neutral, but instead she came off looking like she wasn't smart enough to form her own opinion.

This book provides personal stories, saleswoman insights, and tips on how you can change how you interact and attract men. My favorite icebreakers are on page 75:

That drink looks good, what is it? (don't most men drink beer?)
Didn't you go to my high school?

One of McCann's friends likes to ask guys if they've ever been waxed. Now that is one I certainly never would have thought to use.

While some of the advice in this book is common sense, other advice will help those who are still single and tired of playing games, getting dumped, and living in love limbo. There is some great insight into how to gauge men's interest from how they look at you, converse with you, and how they interact with women.

I highly recommend this book for women who want to change their dating outcomes and find a steady relationship that will fulfill them and make them happy. I also think that this book has wider applications for women, teaching them how to become confident and skilled at engaging others in conversation not only on dates, but in friendships and the business arena. McCann does an excellent job of weaving advice into personalized experiences to engage the reader and help her own the lessons inside these pages.

Check out the next stop on the tour, Life in Pink.

About the Author:

Jess McCann is unlike any dating coach out there. Instead of the usual therapy-based date coaching, Jess takes a unique approach to finding and keeping the right person for you. Through her education and experience in business, she has made the remarkable discovery that dating is really a simple series of techniques that anyone can learn and succeed with.

At thirty years old, Jess was on top of the world. After graduating college, she had started her own sales company, where she single-handedly recruited, trained and managed a thirty-person sales team. She was chosen as one of America’s top entrepreneurs by Sir Richard Branson and traveled the world on his Fox reality show, The Rebel Billionaire. Having discovered first-hand that the art of sales directly translated into her dating life, Jess began counseling women, teaching them logical and proven sales techniques that they could use on their own dates. She continues to teach the fundamentals of sales and dating to women across the country.

***Don't forget my giveaway for an inscribed copy of Matrimony by Joshua Henkin. Deadline is Dec. 21 and the contest is international.**

***Stay tuned for The Green Beauty Guide winner, which I'll post tomorrow, Dec. 18.***

7 comments:

Anna said...

Though this type of book isn't my cup of tea, it sounds interesting. I like that even if you're married, you can still get something out of it. Great review!

--Anna
Diary of an Eccentric

Serena said...

It definitely kept me reading. I think its funny that one of the icebreakers is about what kind of drink they have...normally I see guys drinking beer...not other kinds of drinks...but then again I don't pay much attention these days.

Gottawrite Girl said...

Great interview... and I like how Jess just puts it out there. Attraction rather than promotion... just staying firm and confident, and trusting, rather than stalking men with a net.

: )

Awesome! Thanks Serena, and Jess!

Serena said...

Gottawrite girl: Thanks for popping over for the review. This book can help a lot of women.

Toni said...

What a cute cover. Not really up my alley but I think I would read it... funny how some of that stuff is applicable in other areas of life too! Thanks for the review!

Chris said...

I've seen like around the web but I don't know if I'm the target audience.

Serena said...

Chris: You might be, but you won't know until you check out the book. Its a good read even if you don't have a horrid dating life.